I haven’t done one of these in a while so this is long overdue, especially since the story that goes along with it happened a few weeks ago. Now I wasn’t exclusively dating this guy, but I felt like things could’ve gotten there if he would’ve been as honest as I had from the start. I don’t keep my desire to adopt quiet, not in life and not on this blog and while he originally had no problem with that (or at least said so), he later recanted that statement.
Like I said, we weren’t exclusive but we still communicated on a daily basis and saw each other pretty regularly. He has a child from a previous relationship, and while I wasn’t too sure how that would affect things initially we made it work. The problem came when he out of the blue told me that he wasn’t onboard with my decision to adopt because he wanted another bio-kid, and not only that he wanted one within the next year. I have to be honest, I was more shocked by his sudden change of heart than I was his leaning towards exclusivity. He was a great guy, and one I could definitely see myself settling down with if he hadn’t lied and then decided to disregard the medical decision I made weeks earlier. A medical decision we’d discussed thoroughly before I had the procedure done. A medical procedure that was way too expensive for me to just up and decide to give birth to a kid within the next year (if at all). Needless to say, we parted ways amicably and I didn’t think I’d hear from him again any time soon.
Well that all changed shortly after Christmas. I didn’t block him, but I did silence the notifications of text messages from him so I was surprised when I was checking Facebook one more and I received a text from him. I thought about posting the screenshot, but ultimately decided against it. I’ll just give y’all an overview. Pleasantries were exchanged, he asked if I’d be interested in hooking up again then said that he was joking and he wasn’t interested in that but he did want to know if he could borrow $100 from me.
My jaw dropped and I didn’t respond for a while, not sure how to handle the situation. I asked him if he was serious and he informed me that he was, and that could “promptly” pay be back on January 10th (today). I was confused, he has a great career and family and friends who also have great careers and who could loan him the money. I told him that I wouldn’t be able to loan him the money and he responded “not anything?”. It wasn’t that I didn’t have it, I just didn’t want to loan it to him so I confirmed that I wouldn’t be able to loan him the money. I told him that I was shocked that after almost a month of not speaking he fake asks me for sex and really asks me to borrow money, and that he should ask a friend or family member. He responded with a simple “Ok, thanks”, and after that I had to block him. I wanted to block him when we initially ended things, and looking back I really should have. I’ve had exes pop up before, but never this soon and never for a situation like this. I told a co-worker of mine and she sent me this video of Chris Croker (the leave Britney alone guy) and his whack-a-mole theory. Check it out.
Do people not know what a break up is anymore?!?
Posted by Chris Crocker on Friday, December 4, 2015
I know that my situation isn’t the norm, but have y’all ever had an ex just randomly pop back up in your life before you were ready for them? You were just getting comfortable with them not being around, possibly moving on to something healthier and happier and they rear their ugly heads? Comment below and let me know!