I’m about to do something I don’t think I’ve ever done with y’all…
…reveal something that I’ve been struggling with for years.
I am the epitome of a “people person”. I’ve been told that I can make a friend in any room I enter, and for the most part that’s true. I tend to find at least one thing in common with everyone I talk to and have no problem walking up to complete strangers and striking up a conversation.
The only flipside to that is that I’m a habitual people pleaser. That’s something I’ve dealt with for a while. In fact, that’s the thing I would say in interviews when asked what my “weakness” was. My concern has always been for the greater good and I had no problem putting my needs on the back burner.
This has come back to bite me in the butt more times than I can count and a smarter person would try to prevent that, but I happen to be a glutton for punishment when it comes to that.
This has actually been a topic that’s come up quite a bit in therapy and I know that I can’t be the only one facing this. Right?
I’m getting a bit better though. I still have a full activity calendar, but I make time at least once a month for a weekend to myself. I did that this past weekend and it was LOVELY!! I slept in and lounged around and thoroughly enjoyed myself. I’m slowly learning to just tell people ‘No’ or ‘Not today’ and take time to just be.
To curl up with a good book on my kindle.
To spend hours on Pinterest with no desire to recreate any of the nifty stuff on there.
To laugh at some of the silly things I see online.
To read old fan fictions…judge me not!!
Are any of y’all habitual people pleasers?
Anyone?
anyone?